Resources

To help you during these difficult times we will, over time develop a directory to include lawyers, accountants, grief counselors, grief groups, articles etc.

If you are aware of a resource which you feel might help others in this situation please forward the details to me .

Thank you,

Articles

Canadian Family | 2007
The importance of having a will: Have you written your will yet? If not, here’s why you should
By Karen Horseman
I’ll never forget watching them fight over recipe cards. My grandmother had just died, and two family members were standing in her kitchen having a heated discussion over who would get her cherished handwritten recipes. My grandmother had left a meticulous will, but even she couldn’t have foreseen a battle over recipe cards.

“Some parents, with all good intentions, believe the handling of the will is going to be positive, but they don’t think clearly about what the will is really going to do to their children down the road,” says Linda Somers, a legacy coach.

TOWN CRIER |
Grief over parents’ will let to advice website
By: Karolyn Coorsh

ADVISOR’S EDGE | Nov, 2005
FAMILY FEUD – Prevent squabbling benefactors from breaking the ties that bind.
By Alison MacAlpine
Fifteen years ago, a client dissolved into tears in Cathie Hurlburt’s Vancouver office. This client—we’ll call her Sandra— could see the writing on the wall. She was about to embark on an expensive and emotionally draining three-year battle with her step-siblings over the contents of her stepmother’s will. Hurlburt, a financial planner with Assante Financial Management Ltd., would find herself providing a mix of counsel and comfort as a blended family was ripped apart and a modest estate lost some $50,000 to legal fees.

THE NEW YORK TIMES | MONEY AND BUSINESS/FINANCIAL DESK | March 28, 2004
NY Times Personal Business; A Legacy of Rancor: Estate Fights Rising
By GAY JERVEY
To hear two of their daughters tell it, James and Virginia Null were the kind of parents who embodied the word “fair.” When it came to their children, they divided everything equally. They thought in terms of the number three. Favoritism? No such thing.

During their 47-year marriage, the Nulls, who lived in Forest Park, Ga., lavished love and gifts on their three daughters — Cindy, Amy and Pam. “If anybody went through my parents’ house, they would see three sets of everything, one for each daughter,” said the youngest, Pam Mazikowski, 41. “Three sets of china, three sets of crystal, or three gold bracelets. Whatever it was, it was in sets of three, so it never looked as if one child was receiving more than the other.”

THE NEW YORK TIMES | MONEY AND BUSINESS/FINANCIAL DESK | March 14, 2004
NY Times SENIORITY; Dividing the Money (And the Memories)
By FRED BROCK
LES KOTZER, an estate lawyer in Toronto, says people should worry more about saving their families than saving taxes.

“Family estate fights are not just over money,” he said. “They’re also over memories. These memories can create such bitter warfare that family members will sometimes spend more money on legal fees than the assets in question are worth.”

THE NEW YORK TIMES | MONEY AND BUSINESS/FINANCIAL DESK | May 12, 1996
NY TimesSPENDING IT;Only a Will Can Insure That Thy Will Be Done
By JON NORDHEIMER
ABRAHAM LINCOLN died without one.

So did Presidents Andrew Johnson, Ulysses S. Grant and James A. Garfield.

ARIZONA DAILY STAR | BUSINESS | Tucson, Arizona | Published: 09.11.2005
http://www.azstarnet.com/dailystar/dailystar/92420.php
Opinion by Kathy Kristof:
Study: Money not root of most estate fights

Seniors who want to prevent arguments among their heirs should focus more on who gets the china than the cash: When it comes to inheritance, emotion-laden personal items are five times as likely to create family conflict as money, a recent study says.

Issues involving the fulfillment of …

NEW YORK TIMES | HOUSE & HOME/STYLE DESK | December 8, 2005
NY TIMESYours, Mine And Heirs’
By MARGARET MCCAFFREY
EVEN the best families have stories about the heirloom that got away, leaving resentment or even litigation in its wake.

Stephan R. Leimberg, an estate lawyer, remembers a mother’s $1,300 necklace setting four adult children ”at each other’s throats.”

Books

Advising Families on Succession Planning

Advising Families on Succession Planning – The High Price of Not Talking

Ian Hull’s new book on estate planning and the family conference is hot off the press.

ISBN: 0 433 45112-2
Click here for more information

Web Sites

The Parent Care Solution

A lifetime program for the health, maintenance, and welfare of parents who may be unable to care for themselves now, or in the future, without destroying the financial or emotional structure of the family. The Legacy Conversation is very relevant.

 www.legalace.com/resources/consulting/html

Prepares wills and estate plans at very reasonable cost

Grief Groups

Grief Counselors

Accountants

Lawyers